So, for the last two months, my brother has been living with me and my husband. (Technically, he moved in a month before our wedding.) I had to watch him drink, abuse prescription drugs and really just waste away. Finally we made him choose: get clean, and stay with us, or live somewhere else if you want to do drugs.

That worked for a while. Or at least it made him hide it better.

In the last week I have gotten two "reports" that he is doing things behind my back.

All of this is so hard for me. I just want him to be clean so he can have a better life with his wife and children. And he is fighting with me. WHY?? Why doesn't he want to get better? Why doesn't he want to be with his wife and children? Why can't he just be clean?

I want all of this to be over so badly. But I want him to be better too. He is supposed to be going to rehab. But for some reason he can't meet with this guy that's supposed to give him a start date. This guy keeps cancelling. That makes no sense to me. If you have someone wanting to go into drug and alcohol rehab.... shouldn't you do your best to get them in ASAP??

On top of all this, I feel like I can't minister to my brother. He has told me many times before that he "doesn't believe in my God." So I feel my talking will fall on deaf ears.

What do I do? Do I pull the tough love card and kick him out? Do I just hold out for rehab? Do I force him to come to church with me?

I'm at an impass.